Monday, February 17, 2014

Confidence the great Anti-Bully.

Bullying is the use of force to intimidate, threat , or aggressively impose domination over others. It consists of 3 types of abuse verbal, physical, or emotional. Bullies do this to get self esteem or feel empowered so as to hide their own shame or feeling of jealousy. Some bullies have been bullied themselves and hide it by finding someone to bully to again regain control of their lives. Some have a hard home life and lack the self confidence themselves to be sociable. So back to the word confidence, certitude, assurance, self-reliance, belief in oneself. This one attitude or belief makes for a powerful tool or remedy in the world of bullying. If you have the confidence it shows in every aspect of your life. Shows from the way you walk, the way you talk how you carry yourself. Do you have your head up that's confidence. Walking around with head down is lack of confidence or some determine a social fear. the people that try to make it through with out being seen are usually the ones getting bullied. That is what a bully looks for low esteem to boost their low esteem or social ineptness. On the other side of the coin a person with confidence does not feel the need to bully a person or the situation. The sureness they feel in one self helps them to reach their goals on their own merits and not impose their will through threats. With their poise and leadership quality will have others wanting to help or follow, as opposed to demeaning a person to do what he or she wants. Martial Arts helps with self confidence through proper assurance and reinforcement.
A student joins a group that helps each other through out the class and outside of the classes as well. Not only does that support help the student but the individual achievements helps the self esteem more. Martial Arts shows you the way to do the kick but your the one doing the kick. The Instructor holds the target and ever so often increases its height or distance but you are the one hitting that target at that distance or height. Martial Arts is not the sit on the bench and get a trophy style sport. Martial Arts is the close knit group with individual accolades and accomplishments.  Martial Arts develops leadership qualities in individuals that follows the student for the rest of their life. Choe's HapKiDo has made society better one black belt at a time.